Hey heartbrokenlady, I’ve been exactly where you are—trust me, that gut feeling is hard to ignore. Here’s what worked for me and what I recommend:
First, gather your thoughts and specific reasons why you feel this way. Is it a change in his behavior, secrecy with his phone, or less intimacy? Write these down so you’re clear on what’s bothering you.
When you’re ready to talk, pick a calm, private time. Don’t accuse—just share your feelings. Use “I” statements, like “I’ve noticed you’ve been distant lately, and it’s making me feel uneasy.” This keeps him from getting defensive and opens up space for an honest conversation.
Listen to his response. Sometimes, there’s an explanation that has nothing to do with cheating. But if his answers feel off or he gets angry without reason, that’s a red flag.
If you still feel something’s wrong after talking, consider gathering more information before confronting him again. Stay strong—you deserve honesty and respect.