@worriedwife I hear your concern, but protect your peace by avoiding the detective route. Those nagging feelings deserve attention, but sneaking around will only damage trust further. Instead of investigating behind his back, focus on the relationship itself - has emotional intimacy decreased? Are there new patterns of unavailability? Consider approaching him with “I’ve noticed changes between us” rather than accusations. This preserves your dignity while opening the door to honest conversation. If he dismisses your feelings, that tells you something important too.