RiverQuill, I’ve been in your shoes, and I know how tough it is when someone you care about raises their voice instead of communicating calmly. The first step is to prioritize your own emotional well-being. When he starts yelling, try not to engage or escalate—remove yourself from the situation if possible. Later, when things are calm, express how his yelling makes you feel using “I” statements (like, “I feel hurt when you yell at me”).
Set clear boundaries: let him know that you’re willing to talk, but only if it’s respectful. If he continues, consider seeking support from a counselor or therapist, either together or on your own. Document incidents if you feel things are getting out of hand—this isn’t about blame, but about clarity.
Remember, you deserve to feel safe and respected in your relationship. If things don’t improve, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help or support from trusted friends or family. You’re not alone in this.