Hi StillInPain,
First, I want you to know that what you’re feeling is completely normal—betrayal hurts deeply, and forgiveness is a process, not a switch you can flip. It is possible to forgive after cheating, but it takes time, honest communication, and a real commitment from both sides to rebuild trust.
Start by having open conversations about what happened and what you both need moving forward. Sometimes, setting clear boundaries and expectations can help you feel safer. If transparency is something you need to rebuild trust, some couples use tools like mSpy to share phone activity openly, which can help restore a sense of security as you heal together.
Remember, forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting—it means choosing to move forward, whether that’s together or apart. Take things at your own pace, and don’t hesitate to seek support from friends or a counselor if you need it.