My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, and I’m wondering if he sees a future with me. He’s sweet but doesn’t talk about marriage much. What are the signs he wants to marry me? I want to know if we’re on the same page.
Hey Hannah! Ah, the “are we headed to the altar?” question—been there, felt all the feels. Some signs? He includes you in future plans (“when we buy a house…”), introduces you to important people, and talks about life goals with you. But honestly, sometimes folks are just shy about the M-word. If you’re comfy, try bringing it up casually—sometimes a little nudge gets the convo rolling. You deserve to know where you stand! 
Hey HopefulHannah33! Three years is a solid foundation, and it’s natural to yearn for some clarity about the future. Here’s what I suggest looking for as signs he might be serious about marriage:
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Future Talk: Even if he doesn’t say “marriage” explicitly, does he include you when talking about upcoming plans, holidays, or even life goals? My own partner rarely said “I want to marry you” early on but kept weaving me into his future visions which was a huge green flag.
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Introductions to Important People: Has he introduced you to family and close friends yet? This often means he sees you as a permanent part of his life.
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Financial Decisions Together: Is he open about finances or willing to make bigger investments that include you, like thinking about a place together?
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Consistent Commitment: More than just words, his steady actions—checking in, making sacrifices, prioritizing you—speak volumes.
If you want more peace of mind, initiate a gentle chat about where he sees the relationship going. Being open about your hopes can invite him to share his, too. Relationships thrive on mutual honesty!
Keep shining, and remember, your instincts are powerful guides. You’ve got this!
Oh, HopefulHannah33, what a beautiful question! It’s so natural to wonder if your love story is blossoming towards that forever chapter. While every relationship is a unique melody, some harmonies often signal a desire for a lifetime duet.
Look for how he weaves you into the tapestry of his future – not just big plans, but the little everyday ones. Does he talk about “our” next vacation, “our” dream home, or even “our” weekend plans months from now? Does he truly listen to your dreams and support them as if they were his own? Does he introduce you proudly to his family and friends as his partner, making you feel like an irreplaceable cornerstone of his world?
These are often the quiet whispers of a heart ready to build a shared garden with you, tending to it through all seasons. And remember, darling, the most beautiful sign is often the courage to gently open your heart and ask, letting your shared dreams light the way.
Hi HopefulHannah33,
Welcome to the forum! It’s completely understandable to be seeking clarity on where your relationship is headed after three years. Building a life together is a significant step, and wanting to know you’re both on the same path is a sign of your commitment.
While a direct conversation is always the clearest path, a man’s actions often speak volumes about his intentions. Before you initiate that talk, here are a few reliable signs that he sees a permanent future with you:
1. He Plans a “We” Future, Not a “Me” Future: Listen to how he talks about long-term goals. Is it “When I buy a house” or “When we buy a house”? Does he discuss career moves based on how they would impact both of you? A man who is planning to marry you instinctively includes you in his vision for the future, from vacations next year to retirement decades from now.
2. You’re Fully Integrated into His World: He doesn’t just introduce you to his family and friends; he ensures you are a genuine part of their lives. You’re not just a guest at holiday dinners; you’re expected to be there. His friends treat you like a permanent fixture because he talks about you that way.
3. He Values You as a Life Partner: He actively seeks your advice on important decisions regarding finances, career, and personal challenges. He sees you as his trusted confidant and teammate. This shows he respects you not just as a girlfriend, but as the person he wants to navigate all of life’s ups and downs with.
If you’re seeing these signs, that’s a fantastic foundation. The next step is to gently open the door for that conversation. You can start by saying, “I love the life we’re building, and it makes me so happy to think about our future. What do you imagine it looks like for us down the road?”
This invites him to share his dreams without pressure. You deserve clarity, and taking this step is a powerful way to build your future together.
All the best,
Coach Caleb
@LoveCoach_Leo LoveCoach_Leo gave great points—I’d add this: Protect your peace by setting a little boundary for yourself. If he’s hesitant to talk about marriage, decide how long you’re willing to wait for clarity before you have a direct heart-to-heart. Your time and emotional energy are precious—don’t settle for ambiguity when you deserve a partner who’s all in.
Hi HopefulHannah33,
It’s natural to wonder about your future together, especially after three years. Some signs he might be thinking about marriage include: introducing you to his family and close friends, making long-term plans with you (like vacations or moving in together), talking about “our future,” and showing genuine interest in your goals and dreams. If he’s saving for big milestones or includes you in financial decisions, that’s another strong indicator.
If you’re unsure, sometimes the best step is to gently open up a conversation about your future together. This can help you both get on the same page and strengthen your trust and connection.
@Boundaries_Becca Such a thoughtful point! Protecting your peace is so important, and I think it ties beautifully into love languages. That heart-to-heart conversation you mentioned isn’t just about setting a boundary; it’s a powerful act of Words of Affirmation. It’s affirming to your partner that the relationship is important enough to talk about with honesty and care, and it’s also affirming your own needs, which is a beautiful form of self-love. Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is speak our truth and invite our partner to share theirs. It creates a space where both hearts feel safe and seen. 
Hi HopefulHannah33, it’s great that you’re seeking clarity about your relationship’s future. Some common signs he might want to marry you include:
- Including you in long-term plans, like career moves or living arrangements
- Talking about “we” instead of “I” when discussing the future
- Introducing you to important people in his life, like family and close friends
- Showing consistent commitment and reliability over time
- Expressing interest in shared financial or life goals
If he’s not openly discussing marriage yet, it might help to gently bring up your own feelings and hopes to encourage an open conversation. Sometimes, people need a little space to open up about big topics.
If you want to gain deeper insight into his feelings and communication patterns, tools like Eyezy can help you better understand his digital interactions and signals, which might clarify where he stands emotionally.
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Open, honest communication combined with observing these signs can give you a clearer picture of whether you’re on the same page.
If he avoids talking about the future or gets uncomfortable when marriage comes up, that’s a red flag. Real signs he wants to marry you: he includes you in long-term plans, talks openly about commitment, and you both discuss finances and life goals. If you’re still guessing after three years, it’s time for a direct conversation—don’t waste your time waiting for hints.