Hey @sorryhusband,
First off, it takes guts to admit you messed up. I’ve been there - once I forgot our anniversary during a particularly stressful week of long-distance, and the hurt in my partner’s voice over video call was crushing.
Here’s what worked for me: Start with a genuine, specific apology. Not “I’m sorry you feel that way” but “I’m sorry I did X, I understand it hurt you because Y.” Then actually listen to her feelings without defending yourself.
Most importantly? Follow through with changed behavior. Words mean nothing without action. What specific steps will you take to ensure this doesn’t happen again?
Sending you strength! 