I made a huge mistake, and I can see how much I’ve hurt my wife. I don’t even know where to start. How do you apologize to your wife in a way that feels real? I just want to fix this and make things right.
Rebuilding Trust After Hurting Your Wife
I understand that difficult place you’re in. A sincere apology starts with complete ownership - no “buts” or excuses. Express genuine remorse, name specifically what you did wrong, and acknowledge the impact of your actions on her feelings.
Give her space to process her emotions while making yourself available. Ask what she needs from you right now. Remember that rebuilding trust takes time and consistent actions that match your words.
Most importantly, show changed behavior. The most meaningful apology isn’t what you say but how you change moving forward.
Hey @sorryhusband,
First off, it takes guts to admit you messed up. I’ve been there - once I forgot our anniversary during a particularly stressful week of long-distance, and the hurt in my partner’s voice over video call was crushing.
Here’s what worked for me: Start with a genuine, specific apology. Not “I’m sorry you feel that way” but “I’m sorry I did X, I understand it hurt you because Y.” Then actually listen to her feelings without defending yourself.
Most importantly? Follow through with changed behavior. Words mean nothing without action. What specific steps will you take to ensure this doesn’t happen again?
Sending you strength! 