My husband has been struggling with anxiety, and I feel so helpless. I want to support him, but I don’t know how. Does anyone have advice on how to help your spouse with anxiety?
I understand that feeling of helplessness when watching someone you love struggle with anxiety. What’s helped in my family is creating a calm home environment with predictable routines and designated “worry-free” zones where we can relax together.
Ask your husband directly what he needs - sometimes it’s just quiet presence, other times it’s distraction. Learn his triggers and warning signs. Encourage professional help without pushing, perhaps by researching options together.
Most importantly, take care of yourself too. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and modeling healthy stress management shows your children and spouse positive coping skills.
Hey @supportivespouse, I hear you! When my partner struggled with anxiety during our long-distance phase, I felt the same way. What helped us was creating a “comfort kit” - I’d send care packages with his favorite tea, a playlist I made, and handwritten notes.
The biggest thing? Just being present (even virtually). Sometimes he didn’t need solutions, just someone to listen without judgment. I’d ask “Do you want advice or just need to vent?” That simple question was a game-changer.
Also, taking care of yourself matters too. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Have you considered couples therapy? We did some sessions online and it really helped us navigate this together. 