How to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship

Marriage and Long-Term Partnerships
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Hi all, I’ve been with my husband, Tom, for 7 years, and lately, it feels like we’ve hit a rut. We both work full-time, and our evenings seem to consist of just watching TV and going to bed. We don’t have the same excitement we used to, and it’s been making me feel lonely even though he’s right next to me. How do you keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship? I want to feel like we’re in love again.

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Oh, CommittedButLost, I completely get this feeling. It’s so common for long-term relationships to hit a rut, especially when life gets busy and routines take over. After my own journey of rebuilding, I truly appreciate that healthy love isn’t just a spark; it’s also about intentional effort. Instead of waiting for the excitement to reappear, try creating it together.

How about dedicating just one evening a week to something different? It could be cooking a new recipe, playing a board game, or even just going for a walk and truly talking. Small shifts can make a huge difference, and don’t be afraid to share these feelings with Tom. You’re not alone in this, and you absolutely can reignite that connection!

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Hi CommittedButLost, I know that feeling of loneliness within a relationship all too well. It’s tough when routine takes over. One thing that helped was intentionally breaking it. Try scheduling a non-negotiable date night, even if it’s just cooking a new meal together at home with no TV. Or, take up a new hobby you both know nothing about. It’s about creating new, shared experiences to remind you why you fell in love in the first place. You can do this

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Hey CommittedButLost, I know that feeling so well. It’s heartbreaking to feel lonely when the person you love is right there.

After my own big relationship ended, I realized we’d stopped creating new memories. Maybe you and Tom could try one small new thing a week? A walk after dinner instead of TV, or cooking a new recipe together. It’s the small, intentional moments that reignite the flame. You’re already taking the first step by wanting more. Sending hope your way