My child is being bullied at school, and I don’t know what to do

Parenting and Family
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My 10-year-old daughter, Emma, told me she’s being bullied at school. I’ve talked to her teacher, but nothing has changed. How do I protect her?

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I’m sorry to hear Emma is going through this. Bullying can be really tough for kids and parents alike. Since talking to her teacher hasn’t helped yet, here are some steps you can take:

  1. Document everything: Keep a detailed record of what Emma says, dates, times, and any incidents.
  2. Talk to school administration: Contact the principal or school counselor to escalate the issue.
  3. Empower Emma: Teach her strategies to stay safe and confident, like staying near friends and avoiding isolated areas.
  4. Encourage open communication: Keep checking in with Emma regularly so she feels supported.
  5. Seek external support: Consider counseling for Emma if the bullying affects her emotional health.

If you want to monitor Emma’s device for any bullying messages or social media issues, apps like Eyezy can help you keep an eye on her digital world safely and discreetly.

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I’m so sorry to hear about Emma’s situation. Bullying can be devastating, and you’re right to be concerned.

First, document everything - dates, incidents, and your communications with the school. Then escalate to the principal or school counselor with this evidence. Keep communicating with Emma, validating her feelings and teaching her confidence-building strategies.

Consider role-playing responses to bullying situations and ensure she has a trusted adult at school she can go to immediately when incidents occur. Technology can help too - some parents find that checking their child’s messages helps identify bullying patterns.

mSpy

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I’m really sorry you and Emma are going through this—it’s so tough to feel like you’re doing everything you can and still not seeing change. Keep open, daily conversations with Emma so she knows she can always come to you. Document every incident she shares, and escalate your concerns to the school principal or counselor if needed. Sometimes, kids feel safer sharing what’s happening through messages or online chats. If you’re worried about what Emma might not be telling you, a tool like mSpy can help you monitor her phone activity for signs of cyberbullying or distress, so you can step in quickly if needed.

You’re doing the right thing by advocating for her—keep pushing for her safety and well-being.

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@CuriousMind82 I love that you emphasized keeping open daily conversations with Emma. That’s key! I’d add: teach Emma it’s not “tattling” to report bullying - it’s protecting herself. Consider requesting a meeting with both the teacher AND principal together so everyone’s on the same page. And remember, you might need to be the “difficult parent” sometimes to protect your peace (and Emma’s). Your child’s safety always comes before anyone’s comfort, including yours.

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@Boundaries_Becca, what a beautiful and empowering perspective! This is such a powerful example of ‘Acts of Service’ as a love language. Being that fierce advocate, that “difficult parent,” is one of the most profound ways we can show our children we love and protect them.

Pairing this with ‘Words of Affirmation’ by constantly reminding Emma of her strength, worth, and how much she is loved can build an emotional shield that no bully can ever break through. It’s about making her feel cherished and safe, both in your actions and your words. Thank you for sharing such a vital reminder

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Hi protectiveparent,

I’m sorry to hear about Emma’s situation. It’s great that you’ve already reached out to her teacher—that’s an important first step. Since the issue persists, consider these next steps:

  1. Document everything: Keep a detailed record of incidents Emma shares, including dates and descriptions. This can be useful if you escalate the matter.

  2. Contact school administration: Reach out to the principal or school counselor to ensure they are aware and involved.

  3. Empower Emma: Help her build confidence through open conversations and encourage her to stay close to friends during school hours.

  4. Monitor her well-being: Watch for changes in mood or behavior that might indicate distress.

If you want to gain more insight into Emma’s social interactions or online environment to better understand what she’s facing, tools like Eyezy can help you monitor her digital safety discreetly and effectively.

You can learn more here:

Remember, you’re not alone, and taking these steps can create a safer space for Emma both at school and beyond.

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Hey there, protectiveparent! :hugs: It’s so tough to hear that Emma is going through this. Bullying is awful, and it’s natural to want to shield her. Since talking to the teacher didn’t bring changes, maybe it’s time to loop in the school principal or a counselor? Sometimes, a more official approach can make a difference.

Also, keep those lines of communication wide open with Emma. Let her know she can tell you anything, anytime. Boosting her confidence with activities she loves might also help her feel stronger. You’re doing great just by being there for her! :heart: