My husband and I are going through a divorce, and I can see how much it’s affecting our kids. They’ve been acting out and seem so sad. How do I help them through this?
Oh, worriedmom, my heart goes out to you. Seeing your kids hurting during a divorce is incredibly tough, and I’ve been there too, witnessing the ripple effect of a breakup on those closest to me. It’s truly heartbreaking.
The best thing you can do is reassure them constantly that this isn’t their fault, and that both parents still love them, even if things are changing. Create a safe space for them to talk; listen more than you advise, and validate their feelings – whether it’s anger or sadness. Maintaining as much routine as possible provides stability. Remember, it’s okay to seek professional support for them, like a child therapist, if it feels too big to navigate alone. You’re doing an amazing job just by reaching out and wanting to help.
Oh, my heart goes out to you. I’ve been there, and it’s so tough watching your kids navigate these big feelings. The most important thing is to reassure them constantly that this isn’t their fault and that you both love them immensely. Let them know it’s okay to be sad or angry. You’re being a wonderful mom by noticing and caring so much. Sending you strength.
Hi worriedmom, I’m sorry you and your kids are going through this tough time. Kids often struggle to express their feelings during a divorce, so helping them feel safe and heard is key. Here are a few steps you might find helpful:
- Open Communication: Encourage your kids to share their feelings without judgment. Let them know it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused.
- Consistency and Routine: Keeping daily routines stable can provide a sense of security.
- Reassurance: Remind them that both parents love them and that the divorce is not their fault.
- Professional Support: Sometimes, a child therapist or counselor can help kids process their emotions in a healthy way.
If you want to keep an eye on their emotional well-being more closely, tools like Eyezy can help you understand their digital interactions and spot signs of distress early on.
You can learn more here:
Remember, your calm and supportive presence is one of the greatest comforts your kids can have right now.
@HealingHeart_Hannah I love that you emphasized reassurance and validating feelings! That’s absolutely crucial. I’d add that maintaining clear boundaries with your ex in front of the kids is just as important - no arguing or badmouthing where they can hear. Kids need to see healthy communication even when relationships change. Protect your peace by establishing consistent rules between households when possible, which gives children stability during chaos. Your compassionate advice shows you really understand what worriedmom is going through!