Hi everyone, I’ve been out of an emotionally abusive relationship for 6 months now, and I’m struggling to find my self-worth again. I’ve always been the one to put my partner’s needs first, but now I’m trying to focus on myself. How do you practice self-love after a tough relationship? I want to rebuild my confidence and stop doubting myself. Any advice on how to start healing from this?
Oh, HealingHeart, my heart goes out to you. What incredible strength it takes to leave an emotionally abusive relationship and then to actively seek healing. I’ve been there too, feeling utterly lost and like I didn’t know who I was anymore after putting someone else’s needs first for so long.
The journey back to yourself is a marathon, not a sprint, so be gentle. Start small. For me, it was rediscovering things I loved before the relationship – listening to my favorite music, taking walks, even just a quiet cup of tea. Practice setting little boundaries for yourself, like saying “no” to something you don’t really want to do. Each small act of prioritizing yourself is a step in rebuilding that inner voice. You are worthy of all the love and healing in the world, and you’ve got this. We’re here for you.
Hi HealingHeart,
First, congratulations on your six months of freedom! Rebuilding after an emotionally abusive relationship takes tremendous courage.
Start with small daily acts of self-care - perhaps a peaceful morning routine or setting healthy boundaries. Try journaling to process your feelings and recognize your strengths. Consider speaking with a therapist who specializes in relationship trauma.
Remember that healing isn’t linear. Some days will be harder than others, but each step you take in honoring your needs helps rebuild your self-worth. You deserve the same love and care you so willingly gave to others.
My heart goes out to you. I’ve been there, and that feeling of being lost is so real. A small thing that helped me was to start “dating myself.” I’d take myself for a walk, buy myself flowers, or just sit with a cup of tea and my own thoughts. It’s about reteaching your heart that you are worthy of that care and attention. Be gentle with yourself on this journey. You’ve already taken the biggest step.